how to stop and smell the bullshit ♡

I received an email from one of my ladies who had purchased my self-healing audio, saying Janet, this doesn’t work!

A few days later, I got another email from a different lady saying,
'Jan, Im going through even worst things after listening to the audio, WTF is going on'?

They were both listening to a 21 day audio program that uses Cell Command & Affirmations to restore the woman from the inside out. This was the absolute perfect combination of reviews and I'm heading straight in with the dos and very loud don’ts of Affirmations.


A Premature Disclaimer

I think the women who have worked with me know me as the one who beats around no bush.
I think I share enough of my life to let everyone know that my mission is to get women out of misery mode. This, to some may mean that I am here to transform and empower them and give them back their life. This is a very dangerous assumption as I have absolutely no power to do that. What I do have, however are the real life tools that will show them to their own power so they can walk through the harshest of storms like a boss. 


Relying on another person or source to solve our problems is a very passive and lazy way of doing things so I repeat, I am here to be the torch to guide women to their path but I am definitely not here to take their problems as my own. That would be the biggest disservice. I want to show them some kickass ways of solving their own and I do that by giving the shortcuts that I wish someone handed me in the beginning of this winding and very enchanted journey of healing. 

If you are reading this and are part of my tribe, then somehow along the days or years you have read something I wrote that has resonated with you and in some way or another a part of your pain has been something that I have lived through and that I overcome.

If you are new to me, read through with an open mind and a tamed ego as it is exactly the attitude needed to truly assess where you are in your journey of healing


on being an a♡♡♡hole

Let me go to the first review..as this is important

In the past, before life literally threw me head first in the spiritual washing machine, I was the biggest arsehole.
I thought the world was the arsehole. I blamed everyone for being an arsehole but really and truly I was the arsehole myself.
No earthquake, aha moment or transformation took place out of people, friends, family being there listening to me declaring that I want this to end and that I’m fed up and I’m gonna end it. I was just talking through my own bullsh♡♡, rolling around in it and loving the stench. I took no responsibility, I had no coping skills,  never carried my own weight, I shook my problems off my shoulders onto others, took time from them but never intended to use it for a positive change and I was indulging in the thickest roll of pity.

What changed the course of my actions was when friends started to silence, drop and ignore me.

Bang!

Then I was left to it and to my own bullshit.

Silence was my biggest fear so when I got it I knew I had to face the dance alone. I declared and tried so many times to concoct ways to take my own life, then when life turned to me and said, ‘You sure you wanna die bitch, I’ll show you’, 
I stopped and smelt my own bullshit. 
Yes my childhood was horrid and I downloaded nothing but a defeated attitude towards life from my parents but for years, I felt it was easier to blame. Whatever method I used to change and heal didnt work and now I know why so I am passing it on to you in case you haven't stopped and assessed your own bullshit yet.
 

So, based on that, this is the only way I can help

Before I continue, please picture this…
If a surgeon had to have us on his table and was putting his gloves on to perform a life saving procedure, he wouldn’t go,

‘Ohh but the knife might hurt her and there might be a little blood’

He’s gonna go straight to the motherfucker and slice it away from the body so we can live.
More or less my attitude


Now to you


If you are going around buying audio programs with affirmations and listening to all the Waynes and the Lisas and the Gabrielles with all their knowledge and spiritual alignment tips and you’re also onto my stuff for an inside out healing and subconscious reprogramming….but you are not ready to show up and believe you can heal.…

It ain’t gonna work.
Stop right there, you are wasting time and money!

I’ve been there and done that

No affirmation written by me or Buddha himself can work over the power of our own bullshitting subconscious. We first need to make that decision, declare that this is it, know it beyond our bones then we start to let things in. A deep assessment is needed; an absolute clear out; and a spotlight on your inner critic vs your outer critic. 

If an affirmation says, 'I am beautiful' and your inner critic doesn't resonate, the words are instantly rejected. The inner critic is usually backed up by a traumatic event that left you feeling worthless and unloved. A nasty comment from a loved one during the most tender years of your childhood, repeated and affirmed into you will settle in and create the most sabotaging chaos within. This damage, of course takes place because of one main thing - the emotional meaning we give to the event. 

Both inner and outer critic have to agree or else the conflict will delete anything new coming in

If you are protecting the story, bitching, blaming, being an arse, talking shit about yourself, affirming destruction and expecting things to change, you are very wrong.
 

Affirmations are seeds

When we decide you want to create a little pretty indoor garden, we get our pots and our little garden tools and our gloves. Then we take the seed and hopefully position it in the most fertilized, soft, clean soil ever. We don’t choose old soil that is full of weed and life eating creatures

Correct?

So if the mind is still full of shit, affirmations won't penetrate.
That shit needs to be cleaned up first. Shit that s made up of our attitude, our mindset, the information we downloaded as kids, how we responded to it, what we allowed in, our expired beliefs which we carry around like war winning badges and our story – yeah that story which basically takes us to the grave if we permit it to!

We cannot put affirmations on to that and expect them to work.
First we disrupt, then we clean, then we sow.

Disruption is the scariest part for some and I totally understand why.
Unconsciously we may use our stories as an excuse to stay in comfort zone which is quite frankly a detriment to our evolution on this plane. I am guilty of this. I used my own story, allowed it to define me and gave it a really warm place in my life until it nearly killed me. Then, somehow I was woken up and realised that none of it was serving so I become the disruptor myself.

If you are reading this and thinking OMG WTF is she talking about, then you may not be ready to shake it all up and disrupt it.

Determine whether you have genuinely done everything you can about healing your internal sabotage and yet nothing is happening
Or
You continuously talk about your problems but never attempting to find the right solution for you

Here is your checklist

  • What is your story - the biggest challenge - your biggest pain?

  • What are you doing about it?

  • Have you reached the 'Enough is enough' stage?

  • Would you like a solution to your problem or do you have a problem for every solution?

  • What is your attitude like - are you blaming or looking within?

  • Are you reliving the past or learning from it?

  • Are you in victimisation or bullshit mode?

  • Are you using your story to define or redesign you?

  • Are you asking why or are you looking for the lesson?

 

Now to the 2nd review

If you are experiencing this, Congratulations!

Yes yes yes.

The minute you decide to heal and you ask your shit to step to the side and you are willing to let those affirmations in, the story that you have protected, the expired beliefs that have invited in for tea, the champagne popping pity part that you have been hosting all your life…..all of that will suddenly feel like you have shoved it out into the freezing cold. No one likes being thrown in the cold with no warning so there will be a vengeful attempt back in. 

Any affirmations and commands being expressed to the body are initially unrecognised but when the mind decides to heal and it insists and persist and grinds in with new beliefs and upgraded software, the whole system eventually responds. As a default process, it takes us 21 days to adopt a new belief/habit or release one. In the process there will be complaints and strong resistances. 
 

Allow me to give you a more playful version of the above analogy -
It’s like you have yanked a lolly out of a child’s mouth because they have been misbehaving.
What exactly do you expect?
The child to be composed and to say, 'yes mum you’re right, let me go in my room and reflect on this'

No!

So when we have welcomed in destruction, fear, sabotage and trauma to settle in our cells and have never tackled to disrupt them and to get them to get up and leave, we must understand that we need to be solidly centred to witness a raging reaction from these symptoms. It's the child stropping and complaining. You have created discomfort and you are experiencing the reaction but without that, there can be no transformation. Keep in mind that these sabotaging undisrupted traumas, if allowed to stay, will eventually translate into disease.

The trick is to sit still, witness, listen and allow the body to show you what needs tending to.
There should be no attachment to what takes place, just a very mature response to it. Its not easy when the raging reaction brings on more pain. That pain is the blocked energy coming up to the surface for help and attention and the physical can only let us know through discomfort.

I did some energy work on myself a month ago and spent some time healing my gums and teeth and every time I did that, I woke up with agonizing pain in the same tooth. So I knew I had to first detect what that tooth represented, in my case it was family, roots and safety then go to the dentist for a check up.

Look at it in a more playful way - 
Just imagine you have been sweeping dust under the carpet and now you decided to lift the carpet right off the ground and seeing to the accumulated dirt. It's a stinking mess but you are now ready with gloves on, a big bucket of clean water and a mask. 
 

Here's your checklist

  • Which part of the body is complaining?

  • What part of the story needs the most attention? Self-worth, family issues, relationships...

  • Have you determined where it is in the body?

  • Do you understand which stories are stored in different parts of the body?

Having an understanding will help you take the actions required whether it is reviewing your darkest shadows for further investigation or actually seeing to the outer shell

 

Wherever you are in this journey, look in the mirror today and have an honest conversation with yourself
Imagine you have a few days to live, how would you want to act, behave, live?
Separate the story from yourself and see it as an object. Is it depleting or empowering you?

Feel free to share your insights and if you wish to take this on with a little more zest, see below

Yours in the most unfuckwithable ways
xoxo

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